Archive for June, 2012


My aha! moment: horses are a mirror to ourselves.I’ve been a horse owner now for 25 years, and a horse ‘junkie’ for as long as memory serves (somewhere around age 3, I think). It would be impossible to count the lessons I’ve learned from horses, but in the end, I think I can say that my involvement with them has made – and is making – me a better person.


Circumstances in my life recently have led me to do a lot of deep introspection about myself; what drives me, how I act, and what my interpersonal relationships are like. Additionally, within the last year I acquired a new, young horse – George – who I’m learning to ride and bringing along to be my dream dressage horse. (The fact that he is bred to do dressage puts me 98% to my dream…the other 2% is the hard work it’ll take to make me look like I know what I’m doing!)How does this tie into my Aha! moment? It’s more of an ongoing evolution than a single moment, but I’m finding it very interesting. What I have discovered is that how I relate to my horses is, in many ways, a direct reflection of how I relate to people. This is both good and bad.

Some of the good: my experience with horses has caused me to become more patient – you can’t force a relationship, you can’t influence change to happen immediately, it takes time. I’m compassionate and understanding. I’m willing to give the benefit of the doubt, but I also value discipline. I’ve learned not to lose my temper (too much).

Some of the bad: I tend to be too “nice” – too willing to make allowances and excuses for the other rather than immediately ask for accountability or respect; often too slow to act on an injustice or misbehavior. This has become a major issue that reflects itself when I ride George.

I am finding that I am too willing to let the mistakes happen and then be slow about addressing them because I’m afraid of ‘ruining’ him, ‘making him mad’, or not treating him ‘nice’. By my reluctance to act quickly, I am prolonging the lessons we both need to learn and get past so we can continue to grow and improve. When I am attentive to making corrections immediately, and firmly but respectfully demanding that George be accountable for not doing what I ask, he is quick to respond, ‘gets it’, and we can either end on a positive note or challenge ourselves with something new. When I fall into my comfortable place of being tentative with my commands … we wind up doing endless wobbly circles with no real connection but lots of frustration.

That last sentence really sums up a lot of issues that have cropped up in interpersonal relationships over the years, too. I’ve wound up being a doormat more than my share of the time simply because I didn’t stand up for myself in a firm but respectful manner. The result: limited connection and lots of frustration!

There are many other ways in which I’m finding that bringing along this young horse is like holding up a mirror to myself. I’m grateful that I am able to make the connection between the two so that I can work on both areas of my life simultaneously. As I strengthen one, I’m certain to strengthen the other.

It really does make one wonder, however, how much could we learn about ourselves by paying attention to our strengths and weaknesses in our relationships – both human and equine? If we are a timid rider, does that mean we lack confidence in social situations as well? If we have a horse that is beautiful to look at but not good for much else, does that say something about us being superficial? If we have a horse that is obviously too much for us to handle, does that reflect the situations we find ourselves in in other areas of life? I don’t have the answers to these questions, but when approached with honesty, this introspection can really humble a person – there is so much to ponder, and we may likely find some things we don’t like, but which, if addressed can make us better people all around.

So, my Aha! moment really is more of a journey. As I continue to ride George, I’m discovering new areas of weaknesses which need to be addressed, but many strengths, too. I guess that means I’m not all bad…I just have a lot of work to do!

Pony Tails and Pony Tales

I’m not actively competing at the moment (due to the fact that me and beast are still mastering the basics of walk, trot, WHOA, and 20 meter circles which don’t resemble wobbly eggs), but that doesn’t stop me from attending shows. As the editor of the newsletter for my local horse club, I try to show up at most of the shows for at least a little while to shoot some photos and gather some dirt for the next issues. This past weekend was no exception.

My club, the Southern Eventing and Dressage Association (aka SEDA, www.sedariders.org), puts on an annual show just for our junior riders. This show is always a good time for everyone from ponies to parents, even though the heat index frequently flirts with triple digits (this is South Louisiana in June, after all!). This year followed suit, and I had a lot of fun making my way around the show grounds.

By now I’m a familiar sight to the humans, although the horses still sometimes use me and my camera as an excuse to practice their ‘fight or flight or …can I eat it?’ instinct. You just never know with horses! I really enjoy capturing those moments when I can take advantage of the long lens and catch people when they don’t know they are being watched. Cameras make people self conscious (myself included, especially when covered in horse slobber and sweat soaked) so there is just something nice about those natural moments that present themselves. I don’t even pretend to be a photographer of any merit, but the beauty of digital photography is that you can take a thousand photos and delete 997 of them! Mostly, I just enjoy the camaraderie of hanging out with a nice group of people and snap a few photos in the process.

I digress … back to the show! There was a great turnout for the event because it’s always popular with the kids. SEDA makes every effort to create a show that is a positive experience for even the tiniest of tots. As one of our Board members said to me, “If you can’t get your feet wet and learn how to show here, where can you?” Therefore, it’s pretty low key and very supportive of everyone’s efforts. Nearly every participant goes home with a ribbon or prize for something.

Generous sponsors really step up and provide some great prizes. There are prizes for the best score on a pony, the best score on a plain bay or a horse of a different color or a mare. There’s a “Poise Under Pressure” prize for the child who dealt with ‘adverse circumstances’ (i.e., that bucking or recalcitrant pony that was perfect in the warm up but not so much in the arena). We even offer a prize for the Perfect Parent … it is the parents, after all, who sacrifice so much to bring the kids to these events and their lessons. All the leadline participants go home with an enormous ribbon – I mean, really, how can you place those adorable kids anything BUT first?

It’s really a great time watching the kids get excited about polishing their ponies, and memorizing their tests and patterns. Watching the nerves before doing their first test or round of jumping offers me some confidence – heck, if they can do it, I should be able to, too, right? Of course, sometimes it’s just as funny watching the parents – I think they often are more nervous than their kids. I watched a few swarms of family descend around a tot or two to offer water, polish boots and offer last minute hugs and pats before sending them on their own out into the arena. It’s really precious.

The show wouldn’t be complete without a round of games. This year, we offered egg and spoon, ride-a-buck, water glass, and an unmounted water balloon toss. It’s been a long time since I laughed that hard – it was hysterical. Herding cats comes to mind. The ride-a-buck was priceless – competitors were required to ride bareback, and I think this was a novelty for a few participants. I’m guessing a couple of those ponies had less than smooth trots! One little girl was so funny; she was determined to hang onto that dollar even if it meant she was laying on her pony’s neck with her buck under her knee nearly at the pony’s flank. She lost it at the last minute, but certainly gave it a good try! They finished with the water balloon toss which I think they all wanted to lose because it was so hot!

All in all, it was a great event and I’d encourage any club that doesn’t do it already to organize something like this. Yes, it’s a big undertaking, but those smiles are priceless!
I’m so grateful to belong to a group like this which is so supportive of the efforts of the young riders, and, generally speaking, of each other, too.

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